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Totally new and confused... any advice

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Well, here it goes... I met this woman whom I thought was very very attractive. She took a liking to me and asked for my contact info, so I gave it to her. Anyway we started chatting and swapped pics online, and then she came forward and told me that she was a swinger and holds 'swinger parties' at her residence, and that it is very selective. Well, she then told me that she would love to have me join but asked me how 'wild' i could be... I told her I'd try anything once as long as it were heterosexual. I don't have anything against homosexuality, I just choose to not engage in such activities because it is not the sort of thing that arouses or excites me. Well after I told her that she went on to say that if I went to her party, I'd have to be more open... I asked her what she meant, and she told me that in order to go to her party, I'd have to do something wild for her. This is the message she sent me recently: -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=- i am having a gathering of 33 girls and 13 guys everything goes I need u to do me a HUGE favor. If u do this, I will make sure can pass on any activity u dont want to participate in. I ned you to meet up with my massage therapist and chill. to make sure u wont freak out, i want u to close ur eyesa and think of me i want u to grab his head andhave him suck u off u do this we are going to have a hot time =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Now, like I said, I am interested in joining in on this, but I am TOTALLY uncomfortable with this ultimatum she has set. Long story short, does anyone have any advice? At this point, I think I should just tell her sorry, I won't do anything I am not comfortable with and just forget about her. The only thing is that I do have a physical attraction to her, and I am interested in going to her party so I can be with her, but I am not willing to do anything that is homosexual. So, should I just tell her sorry, no deal, and move on...? Any advice is good. Thanks!
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You should definitely not do anything that you uncomfortable with. My husband's and my philosophy is,if it doesn't arouse you and you don't think that you would enjoy it, don't let anyone push you into it. Everyone has their turn ons and turn offs. Also everyone has their boundaries, and if she can't respect that,then she's worth your time. Sex is supposed to be fun. Move on. Keep looking and you'll eventually find someone who is into the same things that you are. Good luck

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sounds like a bit of a scam. She may have made kinky promise to the "gay massage therapist" to find him a compliant sex object. Tread carefully.